Starting a conversation on a plane
Let’s say you find someone next to you intriguing. Whether it’s good looks or something about them makes you want to talk to them, you have to find a conversation starter.
You can always start off with a simple, “Hi!” I know, you’re probably saying, “Thanks Captain Obvious.” Well you’re welcome Sergeant Sarcasm! :)
Another easy one is asking whether the person is from your departing city or lives in the city you’ll arrive in. Say you live in the same city – you might inquire about their favorite pizza place. If they’re new to the area, maybe you could recommend a place! If they’re just visiting the city, ask if it’s for business or for fun! Everyone likes talking about themselves, so ask questions!
Perhaps they have something that catches your eye – I’ll give the example of a tattoo. Coming from someone who has tattoos, I never mind when someone asks me about my tattoos. “Did that hurt?” “What does your tattoo mean?” “Is that the United States?” Any questions are always welcome. Whatever you do though, don’t touch someone’s stuff (tattoos or otherwise). We all need our personal space and unless they invite you to touch their stuff keep your hands to yourself.
Say they’re reading a magazine or a book – ask a question about it. “What do you think about so-and-so’s book?” or “Can you believe what Tiger did?” They’re reading about it, so they’re obviously interested in it.
Conversations can start from the most random topics. I actually had a conversation start over a bag of peanuts. Random? Yes. Good conversation? Yes.
Remember:
- Just like any conversation with someone new, keep politics and religion off the table. Unless of course they’re reading some religious text (that you are interested in) or some political magazine (that you agree with). No one wants an argument, especially when you’re stuck in close quarters. Oh yeah, and don’t start talking about past relationships. That’s always awkward.
- Not everyone wants to talk with you (or anyone else for that matter). Some people are shy, some are just not in the mood to talk, whatever their reason is. We all know when someone doesn’t want to talk – whether they don’t look at you in the eyes, or make quick “yes” “no” or short answers. If someone doesn’t want to talk, let them be. At least you tried!
- Find a common interest, or find something they are interested in. You just might learn something new, or teach someone something new! But remember, you’re initiating the conversation - so make it about them. If they want to continue the conversation, they’ll make it about you.
Good luck and happy conversation hunting!
